tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post8522931426143230388..comments2024-02-07T03:31:48.866-06:00Comments on Pixel Perfect: Things you should never say to a woman facing infertilityPixel Perfecthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05480254363855233374noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-10724028085179322422009-10-31T01:46:45.439-05:002009-10-31T01:46:45.439-05:00My heart breaks for everyone that is currently fac...My heart breaks for everyone that is currently facing this road or has faced it. Great additions to the list ladies, most people don't even realize that they are saying something hurtful. It's good to bring awareness. <br /><br />Rachel-I know that I have said several of these things before I was "trying." I'm sure several of us have. Don't feel bad but thank you for the prayers. :)Pixel Perfecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05480254363855233374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-29915205482374294092009-10-28T13:34:02.745-05:002009-10-28T13:34:02.745-05:00You know, I have said many of those very things. ...You know, I have said many of those very things. Forgive me. I hadn't realized how hurtful they could be. Thank you for the reminder to speak with love. I hope and pray that God will open your womb and bless you with more children!Rachelhttp://quirkymomma.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-59697078277567249442009-10-28T13:02:10.247-05:002009-10-28T13:02:10.247-05:00great post!!!!! you are strong person I can tell1!...great post!!!!! you are strong person I can tell1!! keep your chic up :)<br />If you would like come check out my blog and enter my current giveaway at littlemissheirlooms.blogspot.com<br />I hope you decided to follow me because I try to bring my readers a new and AMAZING giveaway every Monday!<br />Xo<br />PriscilaThe Little Misshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02316240782013487418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-30495354053772173372009-10-28T09:31:07.867-05:002009-10-28T09:31:07.867-05:00Awesome post, once again Monica! People can be so...Awesome post, once again Monica! People can be so insensitive... <br /><br />until they walk in the shoes of the person they are giving that "wonderful advice" to!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />TraciTraci Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05868420770414629597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-35562878732975511582009-10-27T21:42:11.311-05:002009-10-27T21:42:11.311-05:00things not to say:
you already have 4 kids, you sh...things not to say:<br />you already have 4 kids, you should be happy with the children you have. <br />I have to say that we are not currently doing something to get pragnant but would love to be pragnant again, it just is not happeningtrooppetriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17760346169494672225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-6196619130778775552009-10-27T19:26:22.237-05:002009-10-27T19:26:22.237-05:00It took us over six years to get pregnant with our...It took us over six years to get pregnant with our son. I was so tired of the comments from people that a few years into the six years wait we just told everyone we knew that we weren't trying any more (and then just tried in secret).Marilyn (A Lot of Loves)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06657908406859803924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-26277894389708800092009-10-27T16:57:30.074-05:002009-10-27T16:57:30.074-05:00I am so blessed to have never had to personally su...I am so blessed to have never had to personally suffer with this. But I cannot imagine what it must be like to hear saome of those things. I think it is great that you were transparent!Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17435587559894367861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-79948883420536248802009-10-27T11:11:30.017-05:002009-10-27T11:11:30.017-05:00Sooo...I have one to add for people that are tryin...Sooo...I have one to add for people that are trying to adopt via CPS. NEVER say "Well..if you were willing to take a child that has flaws you could adopt one tomorrow."<br /><br />What kind of person views children as "perfect" or "imperfect"? I almost popped her. ALL children are gifts from God and are perfect exactly the way God made them.<br /><br />All in all...don't say anything to a person going through infertility...just hug them and listen.Charis and Duffyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10885574011357808868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-86990391685369799312009-10-27T09:30:43.421-05:002009-10-27T09:30:43.421-05:00I have my fertility exam scheduled for this coming...I have my fertility exam scheduled for this coming Monday. Yep, on Monday I will know whether the doctors say I can or can not have a baby. I understand that God does not rely on the decision of the doctors, but this is still a pretty big thing. That being said, I totally appreciate this post. People don't get it, they just don't. When they think they're helping is when I want to tear out their eyes the most! It is something that no words make better, it's something that only a caring heart and a listening ear can relieve a tiny portion of the pain. Ultimately, I'm so grateful that I have a personal relationship with God, because I don't know how I would get through these appointments without Him!Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16280523378311477782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-48962733671640884282009-10-27T09:09:23.677-05:002009-10-27T09:09:23.677-05:00I hated these one:
"Are you STILL trying?&qu...I hated these one:<br /><br />"Are you STILL trying?" and "When are you going to have children?"<br /><br />Eventually I became quite "ugly" about the whole thing and if they asked me things like that I would say stuff like:<br /><br />"We practice daily. Do you want details?" "Yes, we still have sex and it is great. We have a favorite position. Do you want me to tell you about it?"<br /><br />They shut up and usually didn't ask me any more :o)<br /><br />Have a great day Monica ♥The Redhead Riterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15146525055317050737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-41326159960752530752009-10-27T07:54:43.085-05:002009-10-27T07:54:43.085-05:00I think it you are awesome for posting this. Ther...I think it you are awesome for posting this. There is not enough awareness. For some of the very blessed women that easily became pregnant they can not understand the pain that others go through. If we could make all women aware of the comments that are hurtful then we could save others heartache. <br /><br />We tried for 14 months and were about to start infertility meds when we were blessed with this pregnancy. I never would have thought the Lord would have us wait that long, but now I understand it was because he wanted us to have these two special babies. Our double miracles!jeannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17206219261467132784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492752135492804254.post-45848722800178002762009-10-27T06:58:55.579-05:002009-10-27T06:58:55.579-05:00I soooo agree with you. We tried for over 2 years...I soooo agree with you. We tried for over 2 years before getting pg with the baby we lost and then it took 6 months between that pregnancy and James. Another really good post would be about things not to say to someone that has just lost a baby. There were some doozies. A listening ear speaks volumesAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17307746647340949695noreply@blogger.com