Today is a day that is nationally recognized as the day to remember pregnancy and infant loss.
I had my loss March 17, 2008. I wrote about it here. It was my first time to be pregnant and we had wanted a baby so bad! I had taken more pregnancy tests than I care to count. All of them had been negative but when I first had my positive my joy was through the roof! Only 5 days after finding out I was pregnant I had a miscarriage. I felt like my heart would stop beating. I became depressed and didn't want to get out of bed in the morning. But I eventually was able to praise God for the life he had created and praise Him for his sovereignty. Even though His plan looked very different from what I wanted.
Every woman grieves their loss differently. Since I didn't have a headstone I could go to, I needed something tangible to honor my baby's life. I bought a necklace with this charm. It is the "mother's love" charm. In my heart I was a mother, only my child was not here with me on earth. I wore also to remind myself to trust the Lord that one day I will have a child here on earth. (and praise the Lord I finally do!)
It doesn't matter what stage of your pregnancy you had your loss. Your loss was a life and that life was significant. Now that baby is resting in the arms of the Saviour. One day we will meet our little ones there!
I don't know if it's something you ever "get over". I know women that after 35 years they still feel the pain. With time we learn we have to move forward. And just because we move forward doesn't mean that we have forgotten our losses. We will never forget and in honor of his/her short life we must live. Though we won't hold them in our arms, we will forever hold them in our hearts!
If you have had a loss leave a comment (if you feel comfortable) in memory of your little one and so we can pray for you!