Mar 14, 2011

Addressing subject matter

*updated to add...This seems so silly in light of what is going on in Japan right now. Pray for Japan!

Yesterday I received a comment that no blogger wants to hear.

"You share too much." (personal details online)

I was a little crushed and confused to say the least. Mostly because this person knows me and I had hoped that they would see my heart in why I share and write what I do.

1 Thessalonians 2:8

"We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well, because you had become so dear to us."

I am convinced that if Paul had been living in the day of technology he would have been a blogger and on facebook. He obviously liked to write. :)

What may seem personal to you may not be to me or other bloggers. There are christian women who blog about their past affairs, surviving sexual abuse, ones who are very candid about their broken marriages, and sin in their lives. I don't want to speak for these women but I know I write about details in my life in hopes to further the gospel. God has given me a passion for marriage ministry after watching my parents marriage crumble. And I am not going to let one negative comment stop me from blogging about it.

This person's comments were judgmental because I wasn't meeting her standards for what is appropriate. (her opinions had nothing to do with God's standards)  If you see blatant sin in what a write or share about then please call me out! But making judgmental comments in passing to me or anyone else is wrong.

Reading some of the comments from one of the Pillow Talk posts, there seems to be a need to talk about it. 

"I'm looking forward to the next installment, Monica! I'm so glad you're writing this. Christian women are usually curious, but too embarrassed or confused thinking that this is an inappropriate subject matter for women of the faith and if you're interested, you're perverted. But, if you're married, you need some sort of council. If more Christian women actually got over their embarrassment, maybe that would minimize some of the divorce percentages in the church. "

"Thank you for being obedient and talking about this "blushing" topic."

"Don't let the fear of man keeping you from being obedient. Good topic. Great advice."

I never blog about something my husband asks me not to, nor do I publish a post without prayer.

All that to say, I will continue to "share too much". I will continue to share my life with you. In hopes that He will ultimately be glorified.


  1. I don't often comment, but I read as often as I can. I'm not sure which post leaves this person to believe that you share too much, but I think it's wonderful when people are sharing their thoughts and lives with us. We can all learn from each other. And I'm glad that you will not let this get you down, and you'll continue to share with us. Hope you have a wonderful day!

  2. Thank you for your encouragement. I hope you have a wonderful day too!

  3. I don't think that way. I see what you post as a learning experience for you and your family as well as teaching us on certain things...

  4. I'm delurking to let you know...this is still YOUR blog. It's your little space on the internet to vent as much or as little as you want. We choose to be readers of your blog. If we don't like what you have to say we are the ones who can LEAVE! Don't change! Just show her the door.

  5. Well, you know how I feel about your Pillow Talk posts - since I asked you for MORE of them the last time I wrote. :) I love that you share your lives with us. We love you for it!

    Furthermore, almost every disciple of God was met with Satah's wrath along the way - even if it was in the form of a "friend" - Satan can sneak in and work a little. This just means you're on the right track, and he doesn't like it. Keep on, Monica! Your words are Godly!

  6. I agree, blogs are a way to share information with others. Although, not everyone needs to agree with the posts that is their right. However, I like that people take the time to share and help one another.

    Thank you!

  7. I don't understand comments like the one you received at all. It's so easy to just close the tab and move onto something else. I may not love every single post made by every blogger I subscribe to - why make such a comment though?

    Please continue to share what you want and ignore the strange, sad people who feel the need to ridicule you for it.

  8. I have recently shared some very personal and not so pleasant experiences in my life and I have learned that some people may not like everything I have to say, but that there is no pleasing everyone. And most importantly? It is my blog to do as I wish. This has taken me a long time to understand. And I'm sorry for your hurt.

  9. I blog too and the way I see it. We do still have freedom of speech in this country and if they don't like what we write then they don't have too read it! :-D

  10. Ha, that is great to think of Paul as a blogger....that makes me smile. I can TOTALLY see that! I love Paul. Who the heck? This is your blog and you write what you like....preach it sister. Your great and your husband is awesome too! Thanks for sharing!

  11. I am one of those Christian women who often feel embarassed about this topic. I see your blogs as encouraging.
    I am often too scared to bring up these sort of topics with other women. However, it is an important part of marriage.
    I had a Christian upbringing and still struggle with feeling that sex is wrong (even in marriage) at times.
    Please keep these types of posts coming.
    You may be saving a marriage.

  12. If it is your blog I don't understand why someone would put that it is too personal. I actually do, the enemy will do whatever to see God not glorified. This may help marriages be more God-honoring. And having lost a parent who took their life because of ongoing marriage problems, I think it can really help people to see others address this and give advice because some are too embarrassed to get counseling. Don't get discouraged. God bless.

  13. Good for you, Monica! And I'm glad you used scripture to back yourself up. :)

  14. I don't think I've ever left a comment on your blog. I know that I've been following it for a lil while and I have not noticed you write anything that you shouldn't. I'm thankful that you can be real. The problem with people is no one wants to share their "problems", which could help someone else. Hey, nobody's marriage, kids, life is perfect so I for surely need all the help I can get. Thanks for being bold, real, and exposing your mistakes!!!!

  15. technology is an incredible way to further the gospel, uplift each other and teach biblical principles. keep it up! :)

  16. Monica, I was going through my reader and just realized I missed this post. While I do read most posts by the bloggers I follow, I may not always comment. However, I felt compelled to comment on this one, even if it is a few days past.

    I disagree. I've never read anything here that made me think you share to much. And because I've been following for a while now, I know your husband reads your blog and I'm sure you wouldn't share anything that he would find inappropriate or would make him uncomfortable. I think it's wonderful that you are touching lives with your stories and I do believe there is a need for it. I don't understand why people can't just move on rather than taking time to leave a negative comment, intentionally trying to hurt someone.

    Praying for you, Monica. God Bless!


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