Jan 25, 2010
*****This post is for women over the age of 18. Please quit reading if you don't fit within those guidelines!!!*******
****Hubby has read and ok'ed everything in this post.
It's the second installment of the infamous pillow talk series! The feedback on the last one was very positive and I hope this one is just as encouraging.
In the comment section of the last post the book "Sheet Music" by Kevin Leman was brought up. That is definitely a good read! We read that one a few weeks before we were married. Right before we were married we were given the assignment by our pre-marital counselors to read "Sheet Music" and we did. I was also given the book "The Act of Marriage" I started reading this one before marriage and quickly put it down. I let a friend of mine read it who was married and she started squealing! "You can't read this before marriage!" HA! It's a great book about intimacy in marriage but is way more forth coming than "Sheet Music". It doesn't get as much press as Sheet Music because it was written like 30 years ago (or longer) but in my opinion it's better. If you are married you should check both of them out. Both are written by christian authors.
In the last post I had mentioned that sometimes our rendezvous are planned. Going into a little bit more detail. I have several friends that do this and it will look different for everyone. One of my friends knows that every Tuesday is their evening for intimacy. That way she has all day to mentally prepare. She specifically will pray that God will help clear her mind, that she will delight in her husband's touch and that their time together will be blessed. Her and her husband will send flirty texts back and forth all day. By the time he gets home she is excited to see him and excited about that evening. They work together to try and get the kids down early. They turn off all screens. (phones, tvs and computers)
Tuesday night is their night. The rest of the time it is spontaneous but they both know that they will not go one week without being intimate.
Intimacy in marriage is more than pro-creation. "It is the mingling of souls" as Matt Chandler beautifully words it. It allows us to become close in a way that we can't experience with anyone else. There have been a few times we have gone longer than a week without it. Because hubby was out of town. It's amazing to me to watch how "short" hubby and I get with one another and snappy. Not only that but we both agree there is a distance we feel with each other. It's simply because we need to come together and experience oneness.
Prayer and intimacy
How many of you pray for your sex life? Pray for God to bless it! Not only that, I pray almost daily that I will be attracted to my husband only. That I will crave his touch. There have been many times that we have sat and prayed for our intimacy together. God cares about your intimate moments. In fact it's an act of worship!
That your mind will be clear of any distractions and worries.
That you won't be comparing your husbands to other men.
That God will reveal to you if you have any heart issue or sin that needs to be dealt with.
That your marriage bed will stay pure.
For your communication with your husband to be open and honest. (in a respectful way)
*Create a drawer if you don't already have one or a box. In that drawer or box keep the essentials for romance. Your children must have strict orders to stay out!
Sheet music or The act of marriage book (or any book that pertains to this subject)
Music- put together a CD of your favorite love songs
Journal to keep up with the specific things you are praying for, for your love life.
What are some other things you would put in your drawer?
Ladies, can't wait for the next one!
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